Everybody hurts sometimes. Its especially bad when you and your friend or family members are both hurting. A little tiff is not a reason to throw all the years of glorious companionship down the drain.
- Nothing can happen unless you can communicate with your friend, so be open and do what you can to start the discussion. Any medium can be use : sms, instant messages, email, phone, or the best (if possible) face-to-face conversation.
- Tell them how you feel AND don't forget ASK THEM HOW THEY FEEL. Be calm and courteous, emphasizing that you want to be friends again.
- Give them some space. If communication doesn't work, thats mean one or both of you are too emotionally charged to set things right at the point. LET THINGS COOL DOWN before you try anything else. Plus, sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder!!
- Swallow your pride. If things are still not working out, honestly assess whether it is you who is in the wrong. Try seeing things from his or her perspective. How would you act in their position?
- Apologize when you're wrong. You might be thinking that you, too were wronged, but that doesn't mean you can't apologize for wronging your friend.
- Talk to your other friends. They might help you think of a way to fix the broken friendship. If nothing else, you'll be in a friendly company.
- Accept that friendships change. If none of this tactic works, it may be the time to realize that sometimes the best thing is for two-formerly-close-people to go their separate ways. T_T
- never give up believing that someday and somehow your long-lost-friendship will be restored. Leave the rest to Him. Pray that He will help open up your friend's heart to be friend with you once again.
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