The forbidden love. From a muslim view.

There’s so many meaning that you can interpret from this two words : FORBIDDEN LOVE. It can be man/woman fall in love with somebody else wife/husband ; it can be guy with guy ( that’s mean they’re gay ) and girl with girl ( that’s mean they’re lesbian ) ; or worst – interspecies love, the ‘most unconditional love of all’ between human and animal. Yup. You read it right. There are a few reported cases of human trying to marry a dog or a horse. And yes, they die trying. Who else wouldn’t be??

In this entry, I’m gonna focus on same-gender love. Some people do acknowledge that our sexuality can sometimes be more fluid than we thought. It other words, it can fluctuate and change over time rather than be unchangeable and constant’s for one’s entire life. Unfortunately I have to say, it is possible for some people.

What makes them gay or les?

1. are they confused with their own sexual feelings?
2. always want the other (for gay its men and for les its women..i’ll just gonna write men/women after this.. too troublesome to write separately..) to notice them?
3. don’t like the same kind of stuff that the others like?
4. have this desire to look at the other’s bodies and admiring them in private or in public..? (whichever suited them best)
5. have some feelings of attraction to their own kind?
6. guy only attracted to guy and girl with girl
7. other people calling them faq/queer/gay (for guy) ; les/tomboy/pengkid for girl
8. had this experience – sexual abuse with the older guy/women ; same-gender sexual experience ; got turn on by men /women’s bodies
9. or they have painful rejection by girl/men they like?
10. or they just like being ‘unique’?

Ok lah, lets face it. Puberty can be a bit confusing sometime. Our body is changing and yes..of course dear.. the hormone inside our body is changing too. Things will get clearer as you get older. BUT.. what if you are already old enough?? Cant help ‘falling’ I guess.

I realize that everyone deserve to be treat with respect. My friend once said, this kind of people (gay or les), they don’t usually go around harassing others, its we that harassing them.. in my point of view >>> its no good making fun of them. We actually should have deeper connection with them, find out what really making them turning to the ‘road not usually taken’ and understand whether they really want to be on that side or they actually need US – THE FRIENDS to stay on the right path..

(don’t freak out with what I’m gonna say after this) :

it would be best to help them if they still not experiencing it sexually since ‘that kind of experiment’ will only makes it harder for them to change back to normal ; because it will build a connection (can be a very addictive and strong ones) in their mind between (sexual) pleasure and being with someone of the same gender. So that will bring us back to THE POWER OF MIND!! Your body does whatever your mind tells you to. And your mind correlates with your heart. And your heart relates with how well your faith and dependence to God is.

T_T it saddening actually watching your own friend turning to be gay or les. It’s against the nature and fitrah of a human being. There’s a purpose for God creating man and women differently. It’s for them to get to know each other. In a good way. Through marriage or healthy friendship.

Kepada mereka yang masih merasakan ada sekelumit rasa takut kepada-Nya tu, masih belum terlambat untuk kembali ke pangkal jalan. Mungkin susah berusaha seorang diri, carilah mereka yang sanggup membantu. You need to help yourself first. Kita tak tahu bila masanya nyawa kita ini ditarik kembali. Kematian itu tak boleh ditunda dan tak boleh dipercepatkan. Dan kita tak boleh lari daripadanya. [refer al-munafiqun surah 63 ayat 11]. Banyak lagi ayat lain dalam al-quran yang bercerita tentang kematian. Di sinilah gunanya kita belajar memahami ayat2 suci al-quran. Bukan setakat baca dan melagukan sahaja. Kena faham dengan hati dan berfikir dengan akal. Kena berguru juga. (takut ajaran sesat pulak).

Kisah tentang gay sendiri banyak tertulis dalam al-quran. Saya ambil contohnya lah k?

• Dalam surah al-a’raf [7: 80-81] – dan Lut, ketika dia berkata kepada kaumnya , “mengapa kamu melakukan perbuatan keji, yang belum pernah dilakukan oleh seorang pun sebelum kamu (di dunia ini). Sungguh, kamu telah melampiaskan syahwatmu kepada sesama lelaki bukan kepada perempuan. Kamu benar-benar kaum yang melampaui batas.
• Surah asy- syu’ara [26: 165-166] – mengapa kamu mendatangi jenis laki-laki di antara manusia (berbuat homoseks), dan kamu tinggalkan yang diciptakan Tuhan untuk menjadi isteri-isteri kamu? Kamu orang-orang yang melampaui batas.
• Surah al-ma’arij [70: 29-31] – dan orang yang memelihara kemaluannya, kecuali terhadap isteri-isteri mereka atau hamba sahaya yang mereka miliki maka sesungguhnya mereka tidak tercela. Maka barang siapa yang mencari di luar itu ( seperti zina, homoseks dan lesbian ) mereka itulah orang-orang yang melampaui batas.
• Ayat peringatan – surah az-zukhruf [43: 36] – dan barang siapa yang berpaling dari pengajaran Allah Yang Maha Pengasih (Al-Quran), Kami biarkan setan (manyesatkannya) dan menjadi teman karibnya. Nauzubillah. Jangan berkawan baik dengan setan k? tak ada kebaikan langsung!!

Allah itu Maha Pengampun. Maha Pengasih dan Pemurah terhadap hamba-hambaNya. Jangan putus harapan terhadapNya. Selagi ruang waktu kita masih ada di muka bumi ini, insyaAllah pintu taubat masih terbuka. Kenalah doa banyak-banyak dan buat taubat nasuha. Perlahan-lahan tingkatkan diri ke arah yang lebih baik.. insyaAllah. Sama-sama tolong kawan k?