ada pepatah yang mengatakan : kita takkan kenal seseorang itu selagi kita tidak bermusafir bersamanya, tinggal bersamanya atau berjiran denggannya.
pada saya, ayat ni mmg tersangatlah betulnya. sepanjang 4 tahun lebih sy menumpang hidup di bumi moscow ni, mmg tak pernah terlintas di fikiran saya yang sy akan dpt rs bagaimana rasanya hidup dgn org lain yg gaya hidup mereka mmg langsung tak sama. org kata kalau sy ke kanan, maka roomate sy tuh ke kiri lah.
dlm ramai2 nih, sy rs yg terbaru ni lah yg plg mencabar kesabaran, keimanan, dan kecekalan hati sy. sy pernah menangis, skt hati, marah dan mcm2 lagi perasaan yg tak elok semua kluar disebabkan dia. ada satu ketika tuh, sy smp tak boleh nak duduk dlm bilik sendiri sbb mrh sgt ngn dia nih. (sy rs ms tuh setan mmg suka abes lah dpt rekrut sy jg geng dia). bukan maksud sy nak meburuk2kan rumate sy nih. nak bercerita biar jadikan pengajaran dan tauladan. lihat sendiri bagaimana keadaan dunia sekeliling. dia nih jenis yg tak mkn smn sket. ckp elok2 dia wat tak tahu, apatah lg bila cakap tak berapa elok. sentiasa psg tv or lagu kuat2 tak kira waktu n especially bila sy nk solat or mengaji.menyeksi 24-7 mengalahkan org zmn purba.tak kira lagi boyfren2 dia yg sepanjang ms nk bertenggek kat blk sy tuh(n they dont just sit n talk). pendek kata mmg makan hati gila2 lah.. (agaknya masa tuh, smp dh takder hati dh nak mkn.. hehe).
maka slalulah sy mengadu, marah2 dan merengek kat abah n kengkwan. merintih dan mengadu nasib dgn-Nya. sy nih sebnarnya kira sgt bernasib baik sbb ada abah sy yg sgt2 melayan dan membantu sy utk sentiasa be cool and laid back. abah sy slalu nasihatkan sy wat tak tahu jer ngn org sebegitu. lagi dilayan lagi menjd2 perangainya. (and he's so true). tak payah nak rendahkan diri kita dgn 'berlwn' cara dia. kalau kita menghadapi mslh, cara utk menghadapinya adlh dgn mengubah keadaan tuh or mengubah diri kita agar lebih mampu menghadapi keadaan itu. n since i can do nothing about her or changing my room.. so i'm changing myself to face it. changing for a better person of course.
i learn to accept her for who she is. learn to tolerate more. learn to speak for myself clearly when needed. learn to keep my distance in all the bad influence she posses. n learn to communicate more. n the more important thing is i LEARN TO FORGIVE.
sy slalu fikir kalau sy tunjuk cara yg tak elok kat dia, mesti dia akan ingat agama Islam nih teruk. inilah apa yg diajarkan oleh Islam kepada penganutnya. dan disebabkan sy wat mcm tuh, hilanglah satu kemungkinan yg akan bertambah seorg penganut agama Allah yg syumul agamanya. Nauzubillah. sy tak nak disiksa sbb itu. sbb sy yg sebnarnya menghalang proses dia mendapat hidayahNya.
alhamdulillah, walaupun masih ada rs tak puas hati tuh (kdg2).. tp sy rs kami mcm dh ok byk.dah boleh bertolak ansur dlm menghormati hak hidup masing2. ada one time tuh, sy siap rs klaka plak bila dia cuba nak provoke sy ngn benda2 yg dia wat tuh. sudahnya, dia mengalah bila dia sedar dia tak leh nk wat sy lose control pd ms tuh. (rs cam pendeta plak ms tuh.. or mcm p.ramlee dlm pendekar bujang lapuk.. cubaan... cubaan... ^_^ hehe.)
dan baru2 nih, sy terbc 1 cerita psl seorg guru nak mengajar anak murid dia ttg buruknya perasaan benci nih :
A kindergarten teacher has decided to let her class play a game. The teacher told each child in the class to bring along a plastic bag containing a few potatoes. Each potato will be given a name of a person that the child hates, so the number of potatoes that a child will put in his/her plastic bag will depend on the number of people he/she hates. So when the day came, every child brought some potatoes with the name of the people he/she hated. Some had 2 potatoes; some 3 while some up to 5 potatoes.
The teacher then told the children to carry with them the potatoes in the plastic bag wherever they go (even to the toilet) for 1 week. Days after days passed by, and the children started to complain due to the unpleasant smell let out by the rotten potatoes. Besides, those having 5 potatoes also had to carry heavier bags. After 1 week, the children were relieved because the game had finally ended.
The teacher asked: “How did you feel while carrying the potatoes with you for 1 week?” The children let out their frustrations and started complaining of the trouble that they had to go through having to carry the heavy and smelly potatoes wherever they go. Then the teacher told them the hidden meaning behind the game. The teacher said: “This is exactly the situation when you carry your hatred for somebody inside your heart.
The stench of hatred will contaminate your heart and you will carry it with you wherever you go. If you cannot tolerate the smell of rotten potatoes for just 1 week, can you imagine what is it like to have the stench of hatred in your heart for your lifetime?”
Moral of the story:
Throw away any hatred for anyone from your heart so that you will not carry sins for a lifetime. Forgiving others is the best attitude to take. “Learn to Forgive and Forget.”
- surah an-nur ayat 22: .... dan hendaklah mereka memaafkan dan berlapang dada. Apakah kamu tidak suka bahawa Allah mengampunimu? dan Allah Maha Pengampun, Maha Penyayang.
- with 1 minute u loss urself in anger and hatred, u lose 60 minute of ur lifetime. so dont waste it!!
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