Positive thinking is not meaning you need to put up a relentlessly sunny outlook or a belief that you can achieve anything by believing in it enough. Instead, positive thinking is a whole set of thinking patterns and behaviors that add up to a way of looking at life that is hopeful and resilient.
Research shows that people who thinks positively tend to look for explanation that galvanize them into action while people with a ‘pessimistic explanatory style’ tend to react with feelings of feeling helplessness.
‘If we believe we deserve something good, we are motivated to aim for it’.
STEP 1: turn around your negative talk.
- Interpret the situation and remember that you ALWAYS have a choice.
- Skill of being positive doesn’t happen overnight. When you are in stressful or unfamiliar conditions, the more you listen to your negative self talk, the more you believe it. Remember about your previous success encounters and said to yourself à I’ve done this before, therefore I can do this.
- Don’t straightly jump into conclusions about any kind of intention and opinions.
- Use key words or imaging an image that evoke calmness. For example, picturing yourself in front of a wide blue azure lake or simply put all your problem in a big dustbin and tuck it away ASAP. It will not help you solve the problem entirely, but remember this: you are way ahead in taking the steps to clear your problems.
- Spend time thinking about things that does goes well and what’s good in your life than focusing on all the wrong/bad ones.
- Stop trying to please everyone.
- Embrace life so that by doing that you can embrace your fear.
STEP 2: free yourself from WORRY.
- Challenge them head on.
- If your worries are weighing you down, take a break every hour or so. Let your entire insecurities flood out, don’t hold it back. Imagine the worst that could happen without trying to make things better.
- Take time to relax.
- Get back to what you were doing, applying yourself with FULL AWARENESS AND CONCENTRATION (in another word = focus).
STEP 3: start living NOW.
- Procrastination lowers our stress level in the short term. But the more we put things off, the more our overall performances deteriorate à the more stressed we become.
- Keep your promises.
- Start anywhere. Don’t wait for the perfect plan and definitely DON’T WAIT FOR THE RIGHT TIME!! Break the rules about order and perfection.
- Keep a diary/journal of success.
- Project yourself ahead. Think ahead of you. What advice can you give to yourself?
- Refused to give in to despair even when you feel like the world is crushing itself against you. Tell yourself, you will survive this.
STEP 4: let go of your anger.
- Know this: a person who is afraid of being angry is also afraid of expressing needs.
- The goal is to become assertive without being aggressive; it is important to be able to say or convey the meaning of : this is what I feel, this is what I want, this is what I think.
- Deal with the underlying problem.
- Reconnect with the simple stuff in life à let yourself have the ability to enjoy your own self.
STEP 5: become a positive thinker yourself!
- None of us I perfect and no one expects you to be.
- Commit random act of kindness.
- Get out from your comfort zone. Determine what you want in life and start acting on it.
[Extract taken from Psychologies UK February edition]
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